Do you flirt? Are you any good at it?

The most successful women I know are GREAT flirts. And they are successful across the board - in business, in love and in control of their lives.

My friend Sandy always looks her best when "fix it" men show up. She claims they do their best when she looks hers and is attentive to them.

I remember one of my best friends from High School, Teresa. We'd hear her saying things like "Jimmy have you been working out with weights again? You arms look sooooo big." We'd be snickering but you know what? She's practically running that state these days. (And she and Jimmy are good friends for life.)

Long story short, flirting is an essential, healthy and fun part of life. It is also very, very useful when it comes to Love & Marriage. Find out "how to" be your best flirt with this easy course by Mimi Tanner. Worth every penny, dime, dollar ... (What would you be willing to pay to have men do what you want them to do, and be happy about it?!)

Other men said they have seen angels,

But I have seen thee
And thou art enough.
~ by G. Moore ~

"The most important day to love is today. There is no benefit in looking at what your partner has "not" done for you yesterday — refocus your attention on what you can do for them, and you, today." ~ David Essel, M.S.


If you don't know David -- get ready to Slow Down and get the Love you deserve. That was the gist of his powerful message on the Get Ready For Love Show and, guess what? It works.


Slow down now, or simply do what you are already doing, and click here to listen into our interview archive. If you want to get the love my friend -- you need to do the footwork. We make it easy for you by keeping these pearls of wisdom accessible, 24/7.

-Special thanks to wsRadio.com The World-Wide Leader in Internet Talk.

Come 'on everybody! Let's help Sheryl Kurland, author, Everlasting Matrimony Pearls of Wisdom From Couples Married 50 years Or More.

In her own words, "Please help me with my upcoming book, 101 Marriage Traditions.
Looking for 101 Marriage Traditions or Relationship Traditions! Do you have a marriage or relationship "tradition" that you and your spouse/girlfriend/boyfriend do with each other? Or that your parents or grandparents or relatives or friends do? Is so, please click here to fill out the form below and be published in my next book."

Here are some examples to give you an idea of the types of traditions that would be fitting:

• Linda says, "I love 'folded' potato chips. When Randy and I eat potato chips, like at home having lunch together or at a restaurant.He never says a word about this.He just smiles, picks out the folded chips, and gives them to me. Each one of those potato chips is a love note to me."
• Mike and Lillian have a rock garden in their backyard landscaping. Every trip they take, they bring home a rock, write on it where it came from and the date, and add it to the rock garden. Over their 60-plus years of marriage, the rock garden has grown substantially; it's a garden of their special memories.
• Harriett and Jeffry attended the Masters Golf Tournament in Augusta a few years ago. They LOVED the egg-salad sandwiches purchased at the concession! Although they haven't been back to the tournament, every year, during the weekend of the event, they commemorate it with a picnic with egg-salad sandwiches.

What about you? What about your girlfriend, sister-in-law, mom (please forward this post to them.) Thanks! xoxoxoxoxoxoxo -Viveca

The Kiss.


Kisses come in all shapes, sizes and silhouettes.
Here is one of mine.


E-mail me one of yours and I will post it here.


Somehow this is going to turn into a kissing contest or a drawing or a lottery. Don't ask me how. The idea is coming to me on the fly & it is f-u-n!

Oh. One more thing.

Look around you. Is there anyone nearby that you could hug or kiss?
If yes, do it.


If no, is there someone within a five minute walk? five minute drive?
Go for it.


Is there someone within your e-mail radius that you would like to kiss? Just send this post to them. No conditions attached. The only thing attached is ... a kiss from you, to them.


Kissy Kissy. Ummmmm. Ummmmmm.


P.S. E-mail me your kiss (photograph or drawing) to Viveca@GetReadyForLove.com Can’t wait to see it!

The song "Ready For Love" by India Airie inspired my soul. It connected me to the spirit of Love and opened my heart - wide. (You have to hear it for yourself.)

Months after I first heard it AND played it over and over again I was ready to get ready for Love.

That is how Get Ready For Love Radio came to be ...

A year later I was engaged ...

Aa year after that Michael and I married.

Ready for Love

I am ready for love

Why are you hiding from me

I'd quickly give my freedom

To be held in your captivity

I am ready for love

All of the joy and the pain

And all the time that it takes

Just to stay in your good grace

I you want - really want - to attract that special love then it is time to listen in to India's song, time to devour this list of self help relationship books and tune into interviews with relationship authors and experts.

Do your footwork. Prove your intention. Your intention will turn into attraction.
The rest is delicious.

Marry Smart: How to Attract and Marry the Man of Your Dreams by Terry Hernon MacDonald.

If we could just marry smart the first time (or second) we would avoid the emotional and physical heartache, fatigue, pain and suffering.

If you are getting ready for love, or ready to love again, STOP and order Terry's book. She teaches you the secrets to attract and marry the man of your dreams! Click here to learn more about this love guide and to order your copy.

By the way, Terry was one of my first relationship advisors and a favorite guest on the Get Ready for Love Show. Terry's formula worked for Terry, me and thousands more. Go ahead.

Be next.

You, in the nude?

Recently, a reader wrote in to ask my opinion of her new boyfriend's request that they exchange nude photos via email. At the time, I thought it was a no-brainer. Why would any intelligent person consider doing such a thing, especially in the Internet age?

I wrote to tell her that it was a terrible idea. Since then, I've learned that taking nude photos and performing in homemade porn flicks rivals the popularity of, say, the craze for brewing one's own beer in the early 1990s.

For example:

A couple of weeks ago, a mild-mannered, churchgoing man told me that he threatened a neighborhood teen not to copy or distribute a sex tape in which the boy appeared with the man's daughter.

And...

A newlywed couple invited their parents ... click here for more ...

-Contributed by Terry Hernon MacDonald, Founder, HappyGirlMusing.com

Love Tip and Technique - Detachment
a.k.a "Let go or be dragged"

I was on this very topic yesterday with a friend. Her parting words were something like it sounded like a good idea but she had “never been good at detaching.” Hours went by before I had the “ah ha!” Detachment doesn’t come easily to anyone! It is one of the most difficult of all the Love Skills to master …

Detachment is neither kind nor unkind. It does not imply judgment or condemnation of the person or situation from which we are detaching. Separating ourselves from the adverse affects of another person’s behavior* can be a means of detaching: This does not necessarily require physical separation. Detachment can help us look at our situations realistically and objectively.Detachment allows us to let go of our obsession with another’s behavior and begin to lead happier and more manageable lives, lives with dignity and rights, lives guided by a Power greater than ourselves. We can still Love the person without liking the behavior.
~ Al-Anon Family Groups

Detachment means you can stop:
Suffering because of the actions or reactions of other people
Allowing yourself to be used or abused by others
Doing for others what they can do for themselves
Manipulating situations so others will eat, got to bed, pay bills, exercise, or do whatever you think they “should” do.
Covering up for another’s mistakes or misdeeds
Creating A Crisis
Preventing a crisis if it is in the natural course of events ...

Is this a relationship technique you need to learn more about? For more, click here.

Write Your Way to a Life You Love: Personal Time Management from the Inside Out

I love Jennifer Louden's slogan, the Comfort Queen hub is "a place to be kind to yourself." And, she walks her talk making it easy for the rest of us to join in the self-love party ...

I am filing this entry under "Free Relationship Advice" and "Healthy Relationship Review" because the shoe fits.

My free advice to you today is that healthy relationships start with the one you have with yourself. Please take time to know AND love yourself. You can do that with her artful and thoughtful journals, "mood changer," books and self-care newsletter.

Just visiting her site makes me feel better (and today has been one of those days!)

Whatever is going on with you, take a break and give her a visit. Love, life balance, comfort, spiritual wellness - these are the life gifts that just keep on giving. You just have to open the spout and let the flow begin. Ahhhh. I feel so much better. Thanks for letting me share.

Are you registered for the Get Ready For Love Newsletter? If you have then you would have received your "Love Relationship Review."

I would like to say something about it.

Take it easy. The first time I went through this I thought I was hopeless. There seemed to be too many blanks, too many areas of my life to tidy up to be ready for love.

But you know what? Progress not perfection does it every time.

I am still not perfect (and I never will be) but I got the perfect love for me.

So take the time to complete the review. Journal about it - talk about what you've discovered with a girlfriend and then let the 3 As do their magic.

3 As -- Awareness - Acceptance - ACTION.

Psst. Do you have absolutely no idea what I am talking about? Then you need to click here and register for the Get Ready For Love Newsletter. This is a once a month event (more or less) and the registration offers are: The Love Relationship Review; Healthy Relationship Guidelines and the Nice Girls in Love interview. Ready, set, click here!

Relationship Advice :: “Back-Talk!” – we go back to the real-life relationship experts – couples who have been married 50 years or more. Husband and wife will each give their experienced answer to a relationship problem.

I love my wife, but lately she’s developed a negative attitude. In recent years, we have experienced a number of personal disappointments and family tragedy. Things seem to have finally reached a calm, but my wife has turned into a total cynic. Her negativity is draining the life out of me. What can I say or do to help turn this situation around? Please do not suggest counseling; she won’t go.

-Samuel

What would you advise? Click here to compare ...

-contributed by Sheryl P. Kurland, author, Everlasting Matrimony Pearls of Wisdom From Couples Married 50 years Or More

Look what I found! Actually a friend of mine found it and now I am passing it on to you ...

The 72 Names of God Meditation Book by Yehuda Berg

The 72 Names of God Meditation Book is your personal torch to highlight the areas of your life where you need to shine. Through the practice of meditating on the 72 Names of God, you will stir the Light within your soul to help you ...

see the impact of your decisions before you make them (very handy when it comes to Love); bring more money into your life whenever you need it and heal yourself physically and emotionally.

Count me in.

If you would like more reflection and inspiration be sure to visit the Get Ready For Love Reading Room. We read a lot of relationship books and interviewed relationship authors and experts on the Get Ready for Love Show.

What did I really learn? That we get what we focus on. If you want Love then make the time to learn about it, read about it, listen to experts about it and do-your-footwork. Before you know it you won't be looking - you'll be living the Love you desire.

SLOW down and get the love you deserve. Now that is great relationship advice (and it really works)!

Phone in and join David Essel for Free Relationship Advice on Wednesdays from 8:00 - 9:00 P.M. (EDT)

Topics include:

Aug 15th - The Power of Positive Self Talk
Aug 29th - Loving the Life You Have Now
September 19 - Get Out of Your Comfort Zones for Success
October 17 - By Sending Blessings to Others We Actually Bless Ourselves as Well

Click here for more information and to get connected for the next call.

Psst. I interviewed David on the Get Ready for Love Show. His book "Slow Down - The Fastest Way To Get Everything You Want" is one of my all time favorites. Excellent relationship advice from a human being who is right there in the trenches with the rest of us ...

Would you like to tune into that interview? It is just a click away ...

-Special Thanks to wsRadio.com for making this interview available, 24/7.

What's on your bumper sticker?

Lately I've been on the trail - literally - of men and women who are announcing their relationship status.

The first one was "Mr. Right." I assume that Mr. Right was wanting to attract Miss Right. When he does will his next message read, "Got Love."

Then yesterday I caught this beauty ... So many men, so many reasons to sleep alone.

I don't think this is Mr. Right's love. She sounds single but more than a tad jaded and unavailable.

Got me thinking ...

We all have bumper stickers in a manner of speaking.

For example, in my 20s my bumper sticker was "Not now. Soon."

I thought I wanted love - would go through the rituals, get the guy BUT what really mattered most to me was my work. I worked all-the-time, definitely a workaholic. Most of my relationships lasted six months. Many were with men in other states or countries.

Another good bumper sticker could have been "Unbalanced, unavailable woman. Six months then bust."

In my 30s I would say that my bumper sticker was "Looking for men to fix." Fix, change, manipulate, control - yep I was on a mission to avoid dealing with myself!

Then around 41, 42 something in me clicked. So did my bumper sticker. It now read "Getting Ready For Love." That is when I started the radio show, started reading all those books about love and starting heeding the relationship advice of all those experts.

Guess what? Our bumper stickers attract our reality.

"Not now, soon" Soon never arrives nor did Love.
"Looking for men to fix." I got plenty and then some.
"Getting ready for Love" I did and I got it.

This is an invitation for you to come clean - be honest with yourself. (And share with us.)

What's on your bumper sticker right now?

If you are not sure, look at your results. A mentor used to tell me to look at my results because they were "sometimes harsh but always fair."

Today I have heartbreak on my mind.

9/11 - I remember where I was and what I was doing when I saw that first plane ... That pain brings up other losses of loved ones and tough life lessons. The 'ol tar baby syndrome ...


So, I've spent the past hour researching the effect of heartbreak on the body and soul. Go figure.


If you are in that hurting place here are some books to help you break out of that vicious cycle of sorrow-anger AND start healing your broken heart and soul.

The Dance of Connection How to Talk to Someone When You're Mad, Hurt, Scared, Frustrated, Insulted, Betrayed, or Desperate

Transforming Anger: The HeartMath Solution for Letting Go of Rage, Frustration, and Irritation
Neuroscientists have discovered that getting the heart into a positive rhythm can send a signal to the brain, allowing the two to synchronize and transform anger, frustration, and irritation into compassion, empathy, and calm.

In The Spirit "That day of transformation seems so long ago..."

Pssst. A good book is no substitute for a bear hug. You may want to pull back and isolate. That is a natural instinct BUT know that you are not alone and reach out to others. O.k.?

I've been on the hunt for love. Or should I say "Cruising for Love."

Look what I found. I almost got into an accident getting this shot. What I won't do for Love ...

Oh, in case you can't read it -- the license plate read "Mr. Right."

If you are looking for an easier way to get to Love you can also sign up for the Get Ready for Love Newsletter and have it delivered directly to your e-mail OR get the "how to" skinny from one of my happily married friends and relationship mentors, Terry Hernon MacDonald. Her book, Marry Smart, helped me get to "I do." Are you ready?

I just stumbled upon this jewel ...

Better Single than Sorry :: Jen Schefft, ABC-TV's The Bachelor & The Bachelorette. Relationship Author of "Better Single Than Sorry" How to decide not to 'settle' but to hold true to going for the right partner.

Click here to go and listen on in ... I will be doing the same.

I also saw this hilarious bummer sticker today. It said "So many men, so many reasons to sleep alone."

Psst. Are you are in the market for love -- the kind you want to sleep with -- the kind that doesn't make you sorry, the kind that is loyal, trustworthy, fun, _____, _____, _____ (fill in your own blanks.) IF you are, do subscribe to the Get Ready For Love Newsletter.

Here, read a sample issue -- this one is on self-love. I think that's VERY appropriate for this conversation, don't you?

How did I get and how do I keep that "Lovin' Feeling?" I keep my focus on Love - just like any skill - Love requires focus, practice and a desire to keep getting better ...

This is an excellent interview with Dr. Diana Kirschner, author, "Opening Love's Door: The Seven Lessons and Patty Kovacs, the host of The Health & Beauty Revolution.

One thing you'll learn is Diana's #1 Secret you need to know to find the Love of your life.

BTW - what do you think it could be? Why don't you post you best guess here before you listen in ...

Dr. Diana Kirschner, a noted psychologist & love expert, has appeared on Oprah, Good Morning America, Sally Jessie Raphael and NPR radio ... She's hot.

Relationship Advice: Back-Talk!
In this column we go back to the real-life relationship experts – couples who have been married 50 years or more. Husband and wife will each give their experienced answer to a relationship problem.

My husband dresses like a total slob on weekends but wears suits and ties during the week for his job. Come Saturday and Sunday, he puts on the same ugly plaid shorts and raggedy t-shirts. And he shaves only if we're going out on Saturday night. It's very unappealing and makes me feel that he doesn't care about our relationship. His excuse is "I work hard all week and like to relax on weekends. I'm the same person no matter what I'm wearing." I don't expect him to be a fashion statement, however, his "condition" is a real turn-off and I can't stand him hugging or touching me. He says it wouldn't bother him if I was the way he is, which, of course, I would never be. Am I being too harsh? Can you shed some light on this controversy?- Marie

Click here to continue

-Contributed by Sheryl P. Kirland, author, Everlasting Matrimony Pearls of Wisdom From Couples Married 50 years Or More