Monday, December 29, 2008

Don't be afraid to Love. Pile in. Heart first.

Tuesday, August 12, 2008

Love Story ... Seal It With A Kiss

WASHINGTON - Patricia Angus was a senior at Rosary High School in San Diego and Chuck Scharf was a sophomore at San Diego State College when they first met through Chuck’s younger sister in 1952.

"He was my steady from the very beginning, which my mother was against because she thought I should be meeting other men,” Patricia said in an interview. “But I said, 'No, Mother, this is the young man I want to date.'"

Chuck and Patricia were married two years later, in 1954; he was 21 and she was 19.

"He was a sweetheart," she said, "handsome, loving, caring, just perfect."

Click here for the rest of this beautiful love story ...

Sunday, March 30, 2008

"Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it, without knowing what's going to happen next. Delicious ambiguity."
– Gilda Radner

Guess what? So is Love ...

What are you going to do today to stretch your heart muscels and put out a little lovin'? Add a post and let me know. - Viveca

Wednesday, March 19, 2008

Change your thoughts about Love and you will change your results ...

One of my favorite watering places for sound & entertaining relationship advice is Terry Hernon MacDonald's Blog -- Happy Girl Musing.

Here is a snippet of a recent "Reader Asks" Column - all about Love and how the Law of Attraction really works. In fact the Law of Attraction is working - right now - for you. If you like your results keep on keeping on. If you want to attract different results, read on ...

Hi, Terry: I've met a lovely guy who lives nine miles away from me. He's kind, understanding, not too talky, great sense of humour. Looks a bit like a celebrity.

The *
next man list* I made out which had about 100 qualities on it seems to have more ticked off it each time I meet him. He doesn't have a string of girlfriends, children, or an ex wife. Last night on about date 4, I discovered another favourite thing of mine, he has a hairy broad muscular chest. None of my friends can believe in this day and age I've met a single 40 year old man.

As I'm 5'10", I wanted a tall man, he's over 6ft. Of course, being well armed with knowledge from your information, I'm pacing it, he's ringing and can't get enough. It's empowering and I'm coming from a more balanced relaxed place. Because he's the only one ringing, no matter how many days go between, I know where I stand with him. If he tries anything slightly disrespectful, like trying to see me with no advance planning, he doesn't get away with it. In fact he didn't get to see me Valentine's Day because he didn't give me enough notice. That taught him a good lesson!!! He really upped his game after that

Click here for the rest of the column and to send your own question in to Terry. You can also click here to find out more about T's Best-seller, Marry Smart (Psst. She helped me get ready and get married to mine.)

Tuesday, March 04, 2008

Free Relationship Advice: This is a great tip and I love the perspective ...

Tip: If you're having trouble in one area of your life -- money, health, relationships -- look to an area that comes with ease for you -- money, health, relationships -- and apply what you're doing from the easy area to the difficult area.

Provided by: Meg BertiniPresidentDreamTime Publishing, Inc.

Psst. Whether it is an easy area of a challenging area (like it is for me) check out her new book, Open Your Heart with Gardens: Mastering Life Through Love of Plants

Saturday, February 23, 2008

Is "Clutter" in the way of you getting the Love you deserve? This is a "must read" article by a clutter clearing pro ...


By Ramona Creel

When most of us think of clutter, we think of a physical mess -- A stack of paper on the desk, a pile of clothes on the closet floor, a garage we can't fit our car into. But clutter extends beyond your surroundings and insinuates itself into your personal life. Clutter is anything EXTRANEOUS or unnecessary -- anything that takes up time, space, energy, or money without giving you a tangible result. You've learned how to clear out the "junk" in your home and office -- now let's talk about cleaning out your personal life.


Take a look at your calendar and your "to-do" list -- how much of what you have written down is critical to your survival on this planet? Very little, I'm sure. How many of your appointments involve something that you dearly love to do. A great deal, I hope -- but if you're like most people, probably not. Unfortunately, most folks' schedules are filled with external obligations -- things that you have promised other people. "I have to pick up my kids from soccer practice." "I have to attend committee meeting." "I have to, I have to, I have to." Guess what -- you don't have to! You only have to do what you decide to do. If you don't want to do it, say NO.

I'm not suggesting that you turn completely selfish -- compromise is an important part of maintaining civil relations with those around you! I'm merely suggesting that you be very judicious about what you put in your schedule. Get rid of that knee-jerk reaction of saying "yes" everytime someone asks you to volunteer. It's all a matter of training the people around you not to automatically expect you to participate.


Didn't realize you could have clutter in your finances, did you? Take a look at your spending patterns -- do you see any money leaks? Money leaks are places where your hard-earned dollars are slipping away without you evenrealizing it. Your money leak could be buying snacks at work -- or late fees and interest charges that accumulate when you forget to pay your bills -- or groceries that go bad before you get a chance to eat them.

Try keeping track of every penny you spend for the next month -- that includes personal items, business expenses, snacks, whatever. This may sound hard, but it's not bad if you get into the habit of carrying a small notebook with you. At the end of the month, take a look at your expenses -- you'll be surprised to see where your money goes. Once you say, "My gosh, I had no idea I spent so much on magazines!" you know how to curb your money leaks.


This is always a hard one. People feel trapped in relationships that are "less than fulfilling" for so many reasons -- low self-esteem, fear of change, habit, or just because it's easier than leaving. But most people stay in difficult relationships for one simple reason -- because they never stopped to think that they had another choice.

And I'm not just talking about seriously dysfunctional relationships -- ones involving substance abuse or screaming fits or violence. You might have a friend who complains about her life every time you're together. Or a family member who borrows money and never pays you back. The point is, you're not getting enough positive return out of the arrangement -- and something has to change.

So let's do the old "Keep," "Get Rid Of," and "Not Sure" with your relationship. "Keep's" are pretty clear -- those near and dear to you. "Get Rid Of's" might be a bit harder -- but you need to learn when to call it quits. If you can't think of anything good about the relationship, ask yourself why you really need that person in your life. The "Not Sure's" are those mixed relationships -- some things are good and some are intolerable. Your job is to present your concerns to the other person. Set up some RULES -- this certain thing has to happen more/less for this relationship to work. And be open to discussing the other person's rules as well. If you can reach a mutually satisfying agreement, dandy. If not, they go into the "Get Rid Of" pile.


Employment has become a institutionalized form of slavery in our modern society. Why do we feel we have no say over our work environments? That we just have to take what we get? Again, most people "put up with" their job situation because they never think to do otherwise. What kind of clutter could you clear out AT WORK -- cutting down on unneccessary meetings? Reducing the number of reports you have to generate? Handing a few of your menial duties off to an administrative assistant?

What do you think would happen if you approached your boss with a list of suggestions (in a pleasant and professional way, of course)? Would you get fired -- or would your employer take time to consider your needs? If you would get fired, maybe you don't need that job! It's worth a try, anyway. And if you're self-employed, pretend that you are taking a list of concerns to your boss -- would you look at your job duties any differently if you worked for someone else? Why don't you treat yourself at least as well as you would treat an employee?


We saved the most challenging area for last! How much "junk" do you have floating around in your head, littering your thoughts? People don't stop to think about emotions as clutter -- because they aren't tangible. But guilt, jealousy, anger, and unreasonable expectations of what we can accomplish in a day eat up as much of our time and energy as other forms of clutter.

Think about the last time you had something heavy on your mind -- did you get much work done that day? I'll bet that every time you set out to accomplish a task, you were distracted by your thoughts. The only way to make these bad boys go away is to become CONSCIOUS of them. Pay attention when your mind strays to some unproductive and negative emotion -- and make a concerted effort to let it go. This will take some practice -- awareness of your mental state doesn't happen in a day -- but it will pay off in the end.


Ramona Creel is a Professional Organizer and the founder of -- offering "a world of organizing solutions!" Visit for organizing products, free tips, a speakers bureau -- and even get a referral for a Professional Organizer near you. And if you are interested in becoming a Professional Organizer, we have all the tools you need to succeed. If you would like to reprint this article, you may do so as long as you include this full resource box (Copyright Ramona Creel).


Tuesday, February 19, 2008

Chocolate Coated Banana ... you are going to LOVE this recipe by one of our very own love lights, Kathy Browning. Read it, then treat yourself - him - her - them. I am going to whip this up for Michael when he gets back in town on Thursday.

Why? Because Love meaning doing things for ourselves and for someone else. Oh, and as often as possible, with chocolate!

Monday, February 18, 2008

Daily Thought for Monday, February 18, 2008
by Master Djwhal Khul

May the flowers of kindness be manifest this day, offering both beauty and divine fragrance throughout my heart's palace grounds.

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Wednesday, February 13, 2008

"The most important things to do in the world are to get something to eat, something to drink, and somebody to love you."
– Brendan Behan

And, might I add, that "somebody" needs to start with you-loving-you. Then add on the loves one-by-one-by-one until you lose count. A life well loved is a life well lived.-Viveca

Tuesday, January 22, 2008

LOVE. Let it begin with me.

There. I put it down. Finally.

Love begins with me. Not out there with him or her. Not because of an outside of me event like a phone call, a rate reduction or a recovery from a health or wealth "issue."

Love is an inside job and it begins inside of me and works its way out, its magic, from there.

Now, how will I begin? I already did - awareness. What about you?