Love is not consolation, it is light.
-Simone Weil

Where is Love? Follow the light ...

I have learned silence from the talkative; tolerance from the intolerant and kindness from the unkind. I should not be ungrateful to those teachers. -Kahlil Gibran: Sand and Foam

What have you learned today? Who is your teacher? What can you Love about them? Now, can you let go & let God? - Viveca

THE ART OF FORGIVENESS

Forgiving and asking for forgiveness embrace a great part of my emotional and spiritual growth. It is the act that fertilizes friendships and close relationships. Without it, I assure you the level of intimacy becomes stagnant. True growth is always built on mistakes and the process of their resolution.

I’ll begin with my acts of asking for forgiveness. It is the one I truly have some control over. I find at least three categories of forgiveness:

When I am wrong I promptly admit it. I mean during the conversation or as soon afterwards as I can accept my part of a blunder or transgression. You’d be surprised how often this puts your partner off balance----“I was wrong, forgive me” keeps any relationship on track and sets precedence for the other. Even the smallest infraction left to fester can scar a relationship.

Next, there are my delayed and procrastinated amends sometimes for years, decades! These are the wrongs I’ve been unable to face. Unfortunately, I’m the one who spends years with searing shame or pain, ruminating over disagreements and delusions. If at all possible, I try to meet face-to-face. If not, phone or letter play second best. Once I have admitted my wrong, it frees me up to forgive others, it encourages mending old relationships, and it alleviates my shame and pain.

If I hang onto the grudge long enough, asking for forgiveness face-to-face becomes impossible and I am faced with asking someone who has past on. My favorite way to do this is to write a letter and attach it to a helium balloon; then let it loose over the ocean. Another way is to burn the letter at a special place and watch the smoke rise to the sky.

Do I forgive easily? Since not forgiving keeps me uncomfortable and avoiding situations where that person may be, of course I forgive (it’s really the easier, softer way). When I find myself pulling back, saying “No! This one I can’t forgive!” I’ve been given instructions by a mentor to pray for that person for 30 days, asking that they receive all that is valued and coveted by me. Try it. You’ll be amazed.

Finally, I’ve learned that those who make me the angriest are the greatest contributors to my growth. Success with my companions and amours is always in the process of problem solving and forgiving. -Contributed by Dr. Belle

Your journal assignment ... Who do you need to forgive? Why? When?

Rummaging through past Get Ready For Love! Shows and came across this little jewel ...

Where is Love (and money!) - click there to go to the show page.

Robert T. Kiyosaki - Real life is a multiple guess test and if you don't make mistakes you won't don't ahead. (The money part was excellent AND I loved his love story!)

Steven Guerrero, author, Gentlemen, Start Her Engine - And Keep It Running. You will be awed and inspired to attend to your love nest when you hear how Steven charges up his.

Bruce Cameron, Author, How to Remodel A Man Tips and Techniques on Accomplishing Something You Know is Impossible But Want to Try Anyway. Bruce is humble, hilarious and probably one of the few men I know who will admit to taking their sister's advice!

This show is guest hosted my my friend Mari Smith of MillionDollarRelationships a woman who walks her talk and is a pleasure to work with.

Where is Love? In Sweet Tater Ville, of course! Click here & pick yours!
(Thank you to Fran for sharing this jewel!)

I Love. Therefore I am.

Don't be so committed to how things "should" be that you miss out on how perfect they "are" right here - right now.
-Viveca

Law of Attraction in Love. Like Attracts Like.

A mentor used to say to me "results are sometimes harsh, but always fair."

The translation is ... if I am always attracting unavailable men ... I am unavailable.
If I am attracting men I can't trust ... I am untrusting in myself.

Your turn. Fill in your blanks.

I attract men who ____________________ ... I am _________________.

Then stand back - look at it. It is what it is. Accept it. If you want different results cha-cha-cha- change yourself & you will change your blanks. Step #1 is Awareness.

Now - good noticing! You deserve a hug (and notice how like is attracting like in this video)
The Free Hugs Campaign ... click here

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Love Ah Ha!

Just scrolling through last years family Christmas photos and had an "Ah Ha!"

I don't take pictures of things, people or places I don't like with my camera. As I scrolled through the photos some were better than others - sometimes people blink or my aim was off or the phantom hands petting Bitsey the dog (and her worried face) didn't look the way I expected BUT they all made me smile and feel good.

Today I will notice what my mind is "clicking on" and be as selective as I am when I use my camera. And, the ones I notice that aren't so hot? I'll simply delete vs. stew. Today will be an easy lovin' kind of day.

Are you having any Love "Ah Has" today? Do share ...

If you spot it --- you got it!

This is a reminder that when you are annoyed by a Loved one maybe, just maybe, you need to STOP and check in with yourself before taking offense verbally or personally.

For example, I adore my mother BUT I can find myself getting impatient with her impatience! Two wrongs make a fight, OR ...

I can STOP ... take 3 long, slow deep breaths and be patient with her and me.

Sometimes I get aggravated when my husband is procrastinating on something. I can fuss at him or handle action items I have been putting off!

Who is bugging you right now? Whoever pops to mind - right now - is who you can practice on! Ready - set - Go! (and let me know how it goes & what you discovered about you.)

I'm going to the chapel and I'm going to see my niece get married.
Yes, going to the chapel of Love in Denver Colorado.

This is the niece who was never, ever going to get married. This is the niece I introduced to French snails. I wonder if that is how she thinks of me "the aunt who ..."

I'll bring back a photo or two. This is one of mine. Seems like just yesterday I was saying "I Do." Everynight and every morning I still give thanks. I always will.

Be well. Love with all you have. If you're going to a wedding this weekend tell me all about it when we regroup next week.

Almost time to see, and hopefully share, somethingS I Love.

Cherry blossoms & springtime in Washington D.C.

My niece Jasmine will be out here soon. She is the who I would Love to share these somethingS with ...

What about you? What Loving notions are springing up and clamoring for your attention? No time like the present ...

Armando de peralta

We met just before his 90th birthday. He is elegant, extravagant, extroverted and excellent company. Armando is a man loved by many and a man who loves women, shipping, friends, a little piece of paradise on top of a mountain in La Jolla, Ca and life. He loves life.

And, he is a poet.

and ...

yes, - I confess
I've had innumerable romantic escapades,
erotic episodes, unrequited passions
and desires whose name I wouldn't
dare to say.
I've resorted to the incense of
flattery
played the game of
predator and prey,
yet, - none to be confused with
the darker side of lust.

I've been untimourous about
pleading for your kiss
bathed in contentment when your
embraces release me from despair,
consoled when you cleared the double
from my implausible concerns,
surrendered, when I bequeathed you
my heart.

and your love became,

............... my cradle and my grave.

la jolla, california
april 22nd 2002

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Be Glad. Be Good. Be Brave.
-Eleanor Hodgman Porter

This picture was drawn by my beloved friend, Dr. Belle.
She counseled me in Love. Told me my "picker" was broken and
helped me fix it.

Thank you Belle.

Is there anyone you would like to thank? Add your acknowledgment, thank you or blessing here.

Love Tips and Techniques - Q-Tip

Quit Taking It Personal

Another thought along this line is a quote I love. "I would worry less about what people thought about me if I knew how seldom they did."

In other words, most people, even our significant others are just doing what they are doing without premeditation or passive aggression. The toilet seat is left up because that's were it was when he finished his business.

The toilet seat was left down, because that's where it was when she finished hers.

When something annoys you, remember to Q-TIP, take a couple deep breaths and move on with the rest of your day.

Love is not a problem to be solved.

It is a mystery to be discovered.

Enjoy the process.